14
Sep

What’s Your Family Contribution?

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5 Responses to “What’s Your Family Contribution?”

  1. Adrienne
    14Sep

    This is definitely a topic I need! I have been thinking about this a lot lately. Our current allowance system is the same tried-and-failed one. Jared and I need to sit down and figure this one out again. I think the reason we don’t succeed is because we have always tried the same thing across the board. But our kids are so different that what works for one might not work for another.

    I love your website! I am amazed at how much effort, thought, and creativity you put into it. It’s awesome!

  2. autumn
    14Sep

    It’s interesting that you bring up that different kids might need different systems. I had been thinking about that, too. But, in our family I just don’t see it working. Anya is nearly 2 1/2 years younger than Dylan, but she is so competitive with him. She _hates_ when he appears to be different than her, or get more than her, or have different (read: better) opportunities or rewards or jobs or anything. So although, I’d like to have Dylan doing some other chores, it has to be the same for now. I am holding Dylan to a somewhat higher standard of “clean.” But I’m trying to do it subtly and when Anya isn’t watching. Wonder how long it will last.

  3. Ginger
    14Sep

    hi- I just found your blog through Segullah.

    This year we have started allowances (again), and it seems to be working better for us. I agree with your husband that everyone should just be kind and poolite to each other, and I would probably have days when I would tolerate behavior that I would not tolerate other days.

    We give the older boys allowance for three things: practicing piano, getting homework done, and straightening their bedroom each evening before going to bed. They have to get homework and piano done every day, but if they argue with me about it, I say they will get no allowance, and then it pretty much gets done quickly. This is really more of a problem for piano, they are pretty good ab out getting their homework done. The bedroom is another thing where it is easier to get it done when they are reminded it is tied to allowance, although we don’t always get it done, so their allwance can fluctuate a little each week.

    My daughter who is 4 gets allowance for practicing reading and straightening her room. My almost 2 year old doesn’t get allowance yet, and doesn’t really notice that the other kids do… plus she doesn’t have all the wants her older siblings do!

    Anyway, it seems to be working for us. The kids have Saturday chores also… the boys have to each clean a bathroom, but this is just a chore they have to do before being able to play video games for a while, so it is a different incentive, and it gets the cleaning done.

    We have in the past tried several different ways of working the allowance out, and this one seems to be working the best for us. Maybe because the boys are old enough to want to buy things with their allowance, but hopefully it will give someone out there another idea to try.

  4. autumn
    14Sep

    Thanks for the comments on allowance! And thanks for visiting from Segullah!! I have actually written an allowance update post that will post on Thursday. What I think I like about your ideas is that it’s shorter and easier–fewer chores to keep track of. How do you manage to track the chores? Do you have charts or are you really good at just keeping track of it?

  5. Baby Lyrics
    14Sep

    Very nice information. Thanks for this.

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